HILDA PARRISH WAS BORN HILDA HOUPE ON OCTOBER 31, 1960 TO THE LATE EVERLENA AND HARVEY G. HOUPE AT CENTRAL SUFFOLK HOSPITAL IN RIVERHEAD, NY. SUCH A HALLOWEEN TREAT SHE WAS; SHE BECAME THE FIFTH OF SIX CHILDREN AND NOTABLY THE BABY GIRL OF THE BUNCH.

 

GROWING UP HILDA WAS NOT TO BE PLAYED WITH BECAUSE SHE WAS THE BOSS OF EVERYONE. SHE DID WHAT SHE WANTED AND WHEN SHE WANTED TO; ESPECIALLY WHEN IT CAME TO HER HAIR.   RIVERHEAD BORN AND RAISED, HILDA ATTENDED RIVERHEAD HIGH SCHOOL AND DURING THOSE YEARS IS WHEN SHE MET HER HIGH SCHOOL SWEETHEART, ANTHONY PARRISH KNOWN TO MOST AS "KEENIE".

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"KEENIE" WON OVER HILDA'S HEART FROM DAY ONE AND MOVED HILDA TO SOUTHOLD. ON JULY 6, 1991, THE TWO BECAME MR. & MRS. ANTHONY PARRISH. IN THE MONTHS TO FOLLOW ON APRIL 3, 1992, THEY WOULD WELCOME THEIR BEAUTIFUL BABY GIRL SHEERA CHANEL PARRISH INTO THE WORLD. AT THIS MOMENT, THEY REACHED ANOTHER LEVEL OF JOY AND UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. THE THREE WOULD BE BECOME AN UNBREAKABLE TRIO AND SHEERA WOULD A HAVE FRONT ROW SEAT TO HER PARENTS' RENDITION OF "ALL IN THE FAMILY: ARCHIE AND EDITH'S TRUE LOVE STORY." HILDA WAS A DEVOTED AND LOVING MOTHER AND WIFE, BUT HER LOVE EXTENDED BEYOND HER HOUSEHOLD. HILDA LOVED PEOPLE AND TOUCHED THE LIVES OF SO MANY; WHETHER IT WAS THROUGH HER AMAZING COOKING (BECAUSE "IT'S ALL ABOUT THE SPREAD"), HER CAREER IN HEALTH CARE, HER INSPIRATIONAL WORDS, HER "TELL IT LIKE IT IS" DEMEANOR, OR HER WITTINESS. HER PRESENCE WAS ALWAYS MADE KNOWN. BEING THAT SHE WAS SUCH A SOCIAL BUTTERFLY, THE LOVE AND CARE SHE GAVE MADE EVERYONE FEEL LIKE FAMILY

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TRUTH BE TOLD, HILDA WAS THE LIFE OF ANY PARTY AND A DIVA AT HEART. SHE ALWAYS THOUGHT SHE WAS THE BADDEST THING AT ANY EVENT AND WOULD NOT LEAVE THE HOUSE WITHOUT HER GOLD OR SILVER LIPSTICK, 

DESIGN PERFUME, AND HER SUNGLASSES.   SHE WAS ALWAYS TARDY FOR THE PARTY BUT WHEN SHE PULLED UP, IT WAS BEST TO BELIEVE SHE HAD MANY DISHES TO ACCOMPANY HER AND THE ENERGY TO LIGHT UP THE ROOM.  

 

HILDA ALSO HAD SOME UNFORGETTABLE QUOTES LIKE,

• "YOU KNOW WHAT MOMMA LIKE."

• "I'M SO DONE."

• "CAUSE AFTER MY MOMMA LEFT, I WAS DONE AFTER THAT."

 

TO MOST PEOPLE, HILDA WAS "HILLY", "BIG MOMMA", "HILLA", OR "AUNT HIL". SHE ACCEPTED YOU AT ANYTHING SHE HAD, WHETHER YOU WERE INVITED OR NOT. ESPECIALLY WHEN SHE HAD HER ANNUAL PIG ROAST. HILDA WAS JUST AN ALL-AROUND PERSON WHO LOVED MAKING SURE THE FAMILY WAS GOOD, TALKING TRASH, AND OF COURSE COOKING.

 

IN THE EARLY HOURS OF FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 24, 2023 AT STONY BROOK UNIVERSITY HOSPITAL IN STONY BROOK, NY, GOD PUT HIS ARMS AROUND HILDA AND WHISPERED, "COME WITH ME."

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LEAVING HER MEMORIES TO ALWAYS BE CHERISHED BY HER   LOVELY   HUSBAND   OF   32   YEARS, ANTHONY "KEENIE" PARRISH OF SOUTHOLD, NY; DAUGHTER: SHEERA CHANEL STRANGE (RONNY) OF MORICHES, NY; SISTERS: JANICE HOUPE OF PATCHOGUE, NY AND GLORIA HOUPE OF RIVERHEAD, NY; BROTHER: HARVEY HOUPE (BETTY) OF CENTER MORICHES, NY; SISTERS-IN-LAW: LORRAINE MOURNING AND PAULETTE HOUPE; GODDAUGHTER: KASSIAH GREEN; BEST FRIENDS:    BRIDGET FORD, RICHARD MINTER, SHARON BUTTS (NEICIE), MATTIE JOHNSON, SHIRL BRAUNSKILL-KUJABI, FORTRELLA CUMMINGS (TRELLA), BARBARA KUMBATOVICH (SWEET B), TAMMY MACK AND A HOST OF NIECES, NEPHEWS, GREAT NIECES, GREAT NEPHEWS, COUSINS AND FRIENDS.

 

SHE REUNITES WITH HER PREDECEASED LOVED ONES: HER PARENTS EVERLENA AND HARVEY G. HOUPE; TWO BROTHERS: MAJOR MOURNING AND JEFFERY HOUPE AND HER PRECIOUS GRANDSON: CHANCE ALLEN STRANGE.  

 

HILDA'S BEAUTIFUL SOUL IS NOW AT REST AND MEMORIES OF HER WILL REMAIN IN OUR HEART. SO REST ON "HILLY", YOUR WORK DOWN HERE IS DONE.

 

RESPECTFULLY SUBMITTED,

THE FAMILY

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